Self Affirmation


Somewhere surfing in Internet, i cam e across a Article named, "SELF HELP MAKES U FEEL WORSE". The article stated that the people with "low self-esteem actually felt worse" when they practiced SELF-HELP. The article went on to explaining that the University of New Brunswick and the University of Waterloo had measured research participants' moods after they had repeated "I am a lovable person". The researchers' conclusion was that "self-help" only works for people with high self-esteem and, in fact, makes people with low self-esteem feel worse.

The problem is that repeating "I am a lovable person" to yourself - when the facts of your daily life suggest otherwise - is not self-help, it's self-delusion. It's just like the magical illusion where the magician saws his beautiful assistant in two - we all see it happen but we know in our heart and soul that the theater isn't littered with bloodied body parts!! (( The researchers in question appear to me to have been a little naive.))

If we don't believe our own self-worth in our heart and soul, no amount of trite SELF-AFFIRMATION will fix us up. Of course we'll feel worse for the experience because we'd tried to convince our self that we were a "lovable person" (or whatever other nonsense you might repeat to yourself) and not only have we proved that such nonsense doesn't work - we've proved ourself right, all over again, that we're not, in fact, a "lovable person"!

SO, self-affirmation, can be considered as a scam - but it's got very little to do with true SELF HELP that can. And I am confident that self-affirmation is a SCAM, smoke and mirrors that make no difference to the quality of your life, your self-image, your success or happiness. Why? Because self-affirmation is addressed to the conscious mind - the part of our mind where we do our thinking. But it's our subconscious mind where we do our doing. Somewhere I had read: seventy years research made on subconscious mind proves conclusively that your subconscious mind creates your behavior and reactions and, as a result, creates your life and who you think you are. It's in your subconscious mind that you hold your beliefs - in your heart and soul, so to speak.



So, if we don't believe, in our heart and soul, that we are a "loveable person", no amount of self-talk will convince us otherwise. We need to get to the very heart of the matter - in our subconscious mind. Before we explore how to do that, it's important to understand that our current limiting self beliefs are there because, as young and impressionable children, things were impressed on our subconscious mind. If something happened us in our formative years that made us feel uncomfortable or inadequate, our subconscious mind's replaying of that event continues to make us feel that same way many years later.

We need to by-pass our subconscious mind's proven obsession with the past. And, when we stop to think about it, the solution to your perceived problems is absolutely and obviously found in the present. We simply need to re-learn how to focus in the here and now. I say "re-train" because, as children, we were all expert at paying attention to the present moment - we didn't worry whether dad would deposit money in account or whether we'd get that Apple Ipod like the one which our friend owns- we simply went about our business in the here and now.

SO, now I feel we want to improve our life, our "self-esteem", our happiness, our success, we need to become like a child all over again - childlike, not childish. We need to train our subconscious mind to focus in the present moment - the more you do this, the less your subconscious mind can focus in the past. Our past "programs" won't go away but as you give them less and less energy, they will hold less and less power over us and our life will begin to change.We retrain our mind to focus in the present by using our five senses - by training yourself to pay detailed attention to what we see, feel, hear, smell and taste only in the present moment.

For starters, I think this should be done in the privacy like in own home - otherwise normal people will think you're mad (by the way, all the evidence points to the fact that it's the normal people who are, in fact, mad). Or we can choose to go for a stroll to practice using your five senses. If you like working out or jogging, you could use these activities as an opportunity to pay full attention to what you're feeling in your body, in the muscles and muscle groups that you're using - it means you'll have to unplug the iPod!!Little by little, day by day, we can all recreate our lives through bringing our attention into the only place and time that we have - the here and now. Little by little we will realize low self-esteem for what it is - another illusion, this time created by subconscious snapshots we took of events long gone. Little by little anybody, can create the life, happiness, success, relationships that your heart desires. But it's something that's done little by little - every day - and the little by little will give rise to startling results.

MATHS EXAM


DATE: 18th Feb 2011.
Today at 9o'clock I will have Maths Mid Semester Exam. It's duration will be 2 long Hours!!
I remember the day, three months ago i.e 21st Nov 2010 when I had Mathematics End semester Exam. That day, I think for the first time in my Life I thought I would FAIL in MATHEMATICS exam. For the First time!!!
I don't know what really happened to me at that moment, but I was sure i was not able to think anything. I mugged up all the formulas and went to the Exam Hall to see that I forgot EVERYTHING!!! I couldn't make out WHY?? I could do nothing. I wanted to Bring some or the other answer.. but a Answer which I couldn't bring. I started writing the question down on the paper, and I wanted to make an analysis of the question and write something. But I couldn't think anything. Harder I tried.. Tired I became. I couldn't make any thing out of the paper. I started feeling sleepy.!!! I started gaping at the walls and at my friends filling up the pages. I was sure I was gonna FAIL this exam!! I was afraid. Then I convinced myself.. I will have to attend summer Quarter( this is for the students who failed the semester exams). This took a little time. After a thought came to my Idle brain. if I as gonna Fail this exam then why was i siting in that Hall!!!
I wanted to stand up and walk out of the room. But my conscience said to wait. I was in a dilemma what to do. ??? I am boy who gives more preference to conscience than to anything. I don't why..but I do that!! So I was determined not to leave the Hall. I took hold of the pen, and started deriving the formula's myself. Deriving formula's was sure a though Job. But I didn't had any other way to take. I don't cheat exams.. that's what I am. Utilizing the time I at last I derived a formula... few questions can be now answered. I still didn't had any confidence I could pass this exam. I tried harder still I couldn't derive any other formula. I did sit the whole time of 3 hour( End sem exams r generally 3 hour ). Gave the paper, still convincing me I will attend Summer quarter.
All this time of 3 hours was something I would never forget in my life. Few moments later I noticed I was afraid in the examination hall because I was going to fail. I thought why did it create me the sensation of fear in my heart.?? Why?? Why does feeling of Failure in the examination create sensation of FEAR. !!! This shouldn't be a mystery..since it's my heart .. my mind..my feeling!!! Answers should be open to at least to me.
1) First fear that came to my mind was scolding I would be getting from my parents!!
They have a reason to scold me.and for I to listen. They had been wasting a lot of money for my studies. Though they care about my future than their money still!! If I am not able to get marks, where can I get a Job to live on my own feet. I was not able to live up to the expectations of my parents.I should have practiced more. I am no one to change the past. So I thought I should learn something and make sure I will always live up to their expectations. :) :)
2)If I think, from the next time I will live up to their expectations and would their anything I will fear for?? I couldn't make any other reason. I started feeling ashamed for being afraid of my own parents!

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I came to my hostel room. 6m x 6m room. I couldn't think for any think else.. I gave a call to my Mum, she said Hello,, I couldn't bear tears started flowing down my cheeks. I said my performance in today's exam was not good enough to talk abt. That's all I could talk, then my Mum said from my voice Sometimes it happens. Don't feel bad. Don't remember today's exam or your other exams might also go wrong.
I could say nothing or could she!! So she said she would with me later. It gave me a break. It had been a long time I have cried before, probably abt 2 long years.!!

Now that End sem Maths exams is Past. But memories are still New. These new memories were in my mind entering today's examination hall!!

Gold in Rubbish Can..?

I study in a college, where there is held a Cultural Tech Fest. It happened to end few days ago happily with many people having enjoyed it. As if there exists any event... it is obvious that all he people will take the snapshot of that memory so for the memory to last many ages.
I too did that with my mobile phone which has an embedded camera of 3 mp. :|

I thought to share my memories with many of my friends in the FB. So I had to upload it to some PC first. I searched my PHONE via bluetooth from the Laptop that I own. It was only to find out that I have some problem in my Laptop bluetooth device... :( :( And I didn't install any software that could take photos from the mobile to Laptop.
Ohh.. Now I cannot share my memories with my friends miles away from me.

I was roaming in the corridor of my wing of Hostel. So box in between the path got my attention. I knew that was some dropped of thrash. I took few steps near it saw that was the cover of some samsung mobile..(mine is also samsung). I had preserved my own cover..but it was in sweet home where all the installation CD is there!! So I thought why that person s so careless...he might find it useful.
Few seconds later I reminded it was just the cover not the cable wires. :) That guy might have cleaned his room throwing out the waste. Since he cover box was considerable size, I got a strong feeling to KICK it. As soon as I kicked it box flew throwing out a CD... PC STUDIO..a software for Samsung mobiles. :) :) :)

IMMOVABLE CREATURES

Yesterday, I was riding back to hostel on my cycle and was observing my surroundings. As no person was roaming around me or was riding past me.. my eyes fell on a dry big tree. Anyone from it's size of trunk can say it might be of about 15 years of age. It was no erect, i mean it was in a way seemed being twisted from it's childhood. But that structure may not be appreciated by a wood cutter, but can be by any other human.
I was just watching it and slowly riding my cycle.. i mean riding in a damn slow speed.!
Everyone knows tree are living things that can do anything that other living things can do but except for one thing they are immovable. I felt one thing that if a human is loses anyone of the beautiful sense of his then, Almighty Lord compensate him with other strong senses. But since those beautiful tree had been taken out the right of moving then what did The Lord compensate them with?
I know we cannot know what the Lord does!! But we make many hypothesis. Search for the clues that can prove our hypothesis true. In that search we come across many other hypothesis and work vigorously to tell them true. Until our thirsty brain is not satisfied the quest of knowledge will not END!
As a unsatisfied mind, I also feel what if we are made immovable although world around us is keep moving? So for to know what the beautiful creatures feel let's do one thing...
1) Apply grease to your fingers then say someone to take a smooth thread to keep it in your nose when you close your eyes and then CLOSE your EYES.
How did you feel? :) I know no one might have tried this. But one can know the intensity of the situation. It is the same for those creatures standing still what ever Humans do to it!!

In this busy world I don't think I would carry myself in the quest of What did the Lord gave the tree? Still in the corner of my mind I still feel Those immovable creatures had been growing from the time they were a seed to the present. They had grown observing the people around them. I feel they can sense many things and always try to communicate with the people. But there has always been the language barrier. If that barrier were not there??? Cutting down those innocent tree would have been considered a MURDER. Their cry for help might have melted many woodcutter which might have made woodcutter opt for other profession.! So nice for the Tree lovers!!